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About the Author
“My name is Michael. I can hop. Do you want to see me hop?” That’s how Michael introduced himself to bemused strangers at the supermarket when he was three.
Michael Bungay Stanier is at the forefront of shaping how organizations around the world make being coach-like an essential leadership behavior and competency. His book The Coaching Habit is the best-selling coaching book of this century and in 2019, he was named the #1 thought leader in coaching, and was shortlisted for the coaching prize by Thinkers50, the “Oscars of management”.
Michael is the Founder of Box of Crayons. Box of Crayons is a learning and development company that helps organizations transform from advice-driven to Curiosity-led.
Michael is a compelling keynote speaker who combines practicality, humour, and an unprecedented degree of engagement with the audience. He has performed around the world in front of crowds ranging from ten to ten thousand.
About the Book
The Coaching Habit gives you seven questions and the tools to make them an everyday way to work less hard and have more impact.
It has been endorsed by people such as Dan Pink, Brené Brown and David Allen, all big names in the world of motivation, authenticity and productivity.
It’s been well received by leaders and managers in organizations all over the world, ranging from A(DP) to Z(urich Insurance).
It’s a Winner in the 10th annual National Indie Excellence Awards in the General Business category. And a Finalist in the “Business: Management & Leadership” category of the 2016 International Book Awards as well as the 2016 Top Sales and Marketing Book.
And, the audiobook version was nominated for Best Audiobook Narration in the Voice Arts® Awards Competition, the international competition sponsored by the Society of Voice Arts and Sciences (SOVAS).
For more resources from this book and from Michael on coaching, check out https://boxofcrayons.com/
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BIG IDEA 1 (5:06) – Ask more questions.
This is the fundamental of this book, ask more questions (and then be more quiet) to embrace curiosity and understand rather than give advice.
However, you need to be cautious when asking more questions – don’t ask them all at once with ‘drive-by questioning’ (when you fire multiple questions all at once). You will lose the depth of conversation, momentum, and the other person will be confused as to which questions to answer first.
Also, be aware of asking leading questions, or advice shrouded in a question, instead ask “what else” and then be quiet and let the other person answer.
And finally, just ask it – it’s easy to spend a long time building up a question, giving examples and generally being very long-winded in asking a question rather than just getting on and asking it. One of the benefits of taking a coaching approach is being able to ask the harder questions… so just ask them.
BIG IDEA 2 (9:19) – Identify the three P’s.
Under great questions, you will discover three things, or the 3 Ps.
The project which is the content of the challenge or situations, the people which is really about the relationship between the people, and the patterns – the trends or themes, both positive and negative.
Help people find their AHA! moments, whether it’s negative or positive through your questions and by exploring these three areas. This can help them see their positive patterns that they don’t appreciate enough about themselves.
BIG IDEA 3 (13:02) – Beware the drama triangle.
The drama triangle is taken from more therapeutic models but has a lot of relevance in a coaching context. The drama triangle has three roles – the persecutor, the victim, and the rescuer.
If you see people fall into one of these roles, you can ask – ‘how can I help?’. This question can help stop the drama from unfolding by acting as a circuit breaker. So if you hear someone in victim-mode whining about a situation, asking ‘how can I help’ can snap them into a higher level conversation about what really has to happen next or the real challenge (or admit that they were just whining!).
These types of coaching conversations don’t have to be sitting down, forty-five minutes sessions but you can use a coaching mindset in the micro-interactions we have with other people – and often these can be the most powerful moments to use a coaching approach.
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